Please help:

I tried a lot of times to approach her,
after some time they both start talking
and I just sit staring at them.

There is only one month left for this
semester to end and after that I will
loose her if I don’t do anything but
what can I do????????

I have asked many people and tried many
things but nothing seems to work. I just
don’t know what to do??????

–A Frustrated Student

***MY RESPONSE***

Take heart, Frustrated Student, class
is in session!

I, and many other men, have been in
similar situations many, many times.

Let me make one thing clear right now
that you must understand before you
go out trying to meet women:

WOMEN OF BEAUTY ARE NEVER ALONE!!!!!

You heard me right.  Pretty girls have a
very high social status.

They are almost always surrounded by people,
be they girlfriends, boyfriends, male “nice
guy” friends, brothers, sisters, parents -
whatever!  They will always be in groups
of people.

It is very rare to see beautiful women alone.
And when they are alone, they’re usually
waiting for someone!

The common term I refer to people who like
to hang around with beautiful women is:
OBSTACLES.

If you imagine you’re on a race track, and
at the end of the track is this girl you want
to meet, all the rocks, hurdles, holes, and
booby traps between you and her are OBSTACLES
that can ruin your chances of meeting her.

But there is a way to navigate that minefield
and avoid all these obstacles!  That way is
called:

GROUP THEORY is a system by which you actually
address the girl’s friends instead of trying
to ignore them.

Through group theory, you win over the girls
peer group and turn them into YOUR support
group.

Here’s how it works…

The girl you want to meet is always with her
friend, right?  And you’re worried that you
can’t approach the girl you like because
the friend will interfere in some way.

So what you do is forget about the girl you
like, and approach her friend first!

That’s right…

YOU FORGET ABOUT THE GIRL YOU LIKE AND
APPROACH HER FRIEND FIRST!

Now, this doesn’t mean you’re going to try
and pick-up the obstacle instead of the
girl you really like.

It just means you’re going to overcome that
obstacle before you reach for your prize!

Remember:  You must disarm a land mine
before you step on it!

You do this by acting disinterested in the
girl you’re really interested in, and focus
on winning over the girl you don’t really
care for!

Then, once you’ve won over the obstacle, you
ask if you can “borrow” her friend for a minute
because you’ve been neglecting her.

Once her friend gives you approval to talk to
her alone, guess what?  You’ve just gotten her
STAMP of approval!

This means that the girl you like has no reason
NOT to talk to you!

Then, you pull her off to the side, and work
your magic one-on-one.

How do you break the ice? Then what do you say to follow it up? How do you keep the initial contact going and make your way to asking for the home phone number?

This is where I really get stuck when I try to meet a girl that I like. “Hi” doesn’t seem to work most of the time. But maybe it’s just me. If I don’t get an enthusiastic response right off the bat, I tend to lose whatever confidence I have, stumble over my words, and end up making a fool of myself.
what do i say?

So when you get around to reading this, what I’d like to know is what to say in the following situations (which is where I find myself most of the time when I spot a girl I’d like to take out):

1. If she is at the bar.
2. If she is with her friends.
3. If she is standing on the outside of the dance floor.
4. If she is waiting to use the restroom.
5. If she is in line at a bank, store or restaurant.

Answer

First of all, want to know why “hi” doesn’t work most of the time? Because the girls you’re approaching don’t have high Interest Level in you. If they did, that simple “hi” would do the trick. That’s the main point you’re missing here — most of the girls you hit on don’t like you.

These are so lame… you don’t walk up and use some line on her, if you are muscular and attractive, it doesn’t matter what the hell you say, but if you are some overweight or scrawny guy who approaches her by yourself, unless you are really damn funny, she is going to think you are a total loser.

But look at it this way, guy. Out of a hundred girls, how many are going to like you? Eight? 10? 12? It’s a hard numbers game for the average joe. Like Sal “The Fish” Love says, “If you looked like Brad Pitt in the movie Troy , you wouldn’t even have to say ‘hi’ — she’d be taking your towel off before you even opened your mouth!” (But we all know women don’t care about looks — they’re really after “inner beauty!” That’s what makes us men such animals!)

Keep your confidence

So you shouldn’t lose your confidence, pal, because you’ve had the guts to go up to these girls in the first place, talk to them, and try and close the deal. These are complete strangers you’re approaching, don’t forget, so it’s to your credit that you’re even trying.

But the more interesting thing is this: they didn’t help you . And why not? Because they weren’t interested. “There’s a logic to this madness,”

But you don’t have to stumble over your words. Whenever you see a honey you’d like to take out, look at her and say, with a twinkle in your eye, “I think you’re coming on too heavy.”

Remember; always keep it light, funny and easy. When she goes on staring at you, you’ll feel like a fool twice over, but that’s okay — you’re just there to have fun anyway. Then ask her, “Hey, have you got a girlfriend for me?” If she doesn’t at least crack a smile, she’s got no sense of humor and you don’t want her anyway.

Find some lines that work

The point is to have two or three great lines down pat, wade into the fray and smile . And remember; you have to be dressed right — neat and clean. “Are your shoes Black or Brown? Are your clothes pressed? Of course, if you’re in the band, forget about all that — it doesn’t matter!”

Now, before we get rolling on your list, let’s get an overview of the situation. There’s one thing all these girls have in common, like I said — they’re all complete strangers to you. That’s the really tough part.

Before you even go near any of them, you have to ask yourself: What’s the numerical probability that this girl’s going to like me? Or that she’s even available to like me? Like Brother Love says, “She doesn’t know you from Adam, so the chances ain’t good.”

But let’s go over them one by one anyway…

1. At the bar. You go up to her, and when she makes eye contact, you say, “Are you dying to buy me a drink, sailor?”.

2. With her friends. (My favorite) – Pick the ugliest, fattest one and beg her to dance. After you’re through and you go back and sit down at her table, say, “I would be delighted if you’d introduce me to your friends.”

3. On the outside of the dance floor. This means she wants to dance. Or that her boyfriend, who’s twice as tall as you, is in the men’s room and she’s waiting for him. Step up to her and say, “Excuse me – may I have this dance?” Then smile and show her your pearly whites. What have you got to lose.

4. Waiting to use the restroom. Forget it. She’ll think you’re a pervert. Why? It’s all the rage nowadays to take pictures with your cell phone.

5. In a bank. She’ll think you’re trying to rob her, so forget that one, too.

6. In a store. Ask her where the white chocolate macadamia cookies are. Talk about another product. Tell her it’s your first time in the store and that you’re lost.

7. At a restaurant. Try to grab a table near her if you can. If she’s watching the dance floor, dance with some other girls where she can see you. You have to keep an eye on her peripherally, and then make your move. The best time to go up to her in a restaurant is when she’s on her way back from the ladies’ room.