Women at the bar

How do you break the ice? Then what do you say to follow it up? How do you keep the initial contact going and make your way to asking for the home phone number?

This is where I really get stuck when I try to meet a girl that I like. “Hi” doesn’t seem to work most of the time. But maybe it’s just me. If I don’t get an enthusiastic response right off the bat, I tend to lose whatever confidence I have, stumble over my words, and end up making a fool of myself.
what do i say?

So when you get around to reading this, what I’d like to know is what to say in the following situations (which is where I find myself most of the time when I spot a girl I’d like to take out):

1. If she is at the bar.
2. If she is with her friends.
3. If she is standing on the outside of the dance floor.
4. If she is waiting to use the restroom.
5. If she is in line at a bank, store or restaurant.

Answer

First of all, want to know why “hi” doesn’t work most of the time? Because the girls you’re approaching don’t have high Interest Level in you. If they did, that simple “hi” would do the trick. That’s the main point you’re missing here — most of the girls you hit on don’t like you.

These are so lame… you don’t walk up and use some line on her, if you are muscular and attractive, it doesn’t matter what the hell you say, but if you are some overweight or scrawny guy who approaches her by yourself, unless you are really damn funny, she is going to think you are a total loser.

But look at it this way, guy. Out of a hundred girls, how many are going to like you? Eight? 10? 12? It’s a hard numbers game for the average joe. Like Sal “The Fish” Love says, “If you looked like Brad Pitt in the movie Troy , you wouldn’t even have to say ‘hi’ — she’d be taking your towel off before you even opened your mouth!” (But we all know women don’t care about looks — they’re really after “inner beauty!” That’s what makes us men such animals!)

Keep your confidence

So you shouldn’t lose your confidence, pal, because you’ve had the guts to go up to these girls in the first place, talk to them, and try and close the deal. These are complete strangers you’re approaching, don’t forget, so it’s to your credit that you’re even trying.

But the more interesting thing is this: they didn’t help you . And why not? Because they weren’t interested. “There’s a logic to this madness,”

But you don’t have to stumble over your words. Whenever you see a honey you’d like to take out, look at her and say, with a twinkle in your eye, “I think you’re coming on too heavy.”

Remember; always keep it light, funny and easy. When she goes on staring at you, you’ll feel like a fool twice over, but that’s okay — you’re just there to have fun anyway. Then ask her, “Hey, have you got a girlfriend for me?” If she doesn’t at least crack a smile, she’s got no sense of humor and you don’t want her anyway.

Find some lines that work

The point is to have two or three great lines down pat, wade into the fray and smile . And remember; you have to be dressed right — neat and clean. “Are your shoes Black or Brown? Are your clothes pressed? Of course, if you’re in the band, forget about all that — it doesn’t matter!”

Now, before we get rolling on your list, let’s get an overview of the situation. There’s one thing all these girls have in common, like I said — they’re all complete strangers to you. That’s the really tough part.

Before you even go near any of them, you have to ask yourself: What’s the numerical probability that this girl’s going to like me? Or that she’s even available to like me? Like Brother Love says, “She doesn’t know you from Adam, so the chances ain’t good.”

But let’s go over them one by one anyway…

1. At the bar. You go up to her, and when she makes eye contact, you say, “Are you dying to buy me a drink, sailor?”.

2. With her friends. (My favorite) – Pick the ugliest, fattest one and beg her to dance. After you’re through and you go back and sit down at her table, say, “I would be delighted if you’d introduce me to your friends.”

3. On the outside of the dance floor. This means she wants to dance. Or that her boyfriend, who’s twice as tall as you, is in the men’s room and she’s waiting for him. Step up to her and say, “Excuse me – may I have this dance?” Then smile and show her your pearly whites. What have you got to lose.

4. Waiting to use the restroom. Forget it. She’ll think you’re a pervert. Why? It’s all the rage nowadays to take pictures with your cell phone.

5. In a bank. She’ll think you’re trying to rob her, so forget that one, too.

6. In a store. Ask her where the white chocolate macadamia cookies are. Talk about another product. Tell her it’s your first time in the store and that you’re lost.

7. At a restaurant. Try to grab a table near her if you can. If she’s watching the dance floor, dance with some other girls where she can see you. You have to keep an eye on her peripherally, and then make your move. The best time to go up to her in a restaurant is when she’s on her way back from the ladies’ room.